Building Your Church Culture

written by Tim Loftis, Lead Consultant - Revitalise

In the City to City Revitalise framework, we seek to evaluate and measure two main areas of emphasis in a church: Gospel Faithfulness which we believe then leads to Gospel Fruitfulness. There are six measures which we use to examine a church’s gospel faithfulness. One of those measures is ‘Culture and Values’  which is described as, “the extent to which the church has a kingdom/gospel culture - characterised by prayer, mission, discipleship, forgiveness and the fruit of the Spirit - that shapes every part of church life and ministry”. While that definition is a good one, measuring it can be a difficult thing to do in the midst of a dynamic church congregation doing gospel work.

How then do we identify and address the culture question?  

Culture is often described as the “felt personality” of a church which is an invisible, often unspoken set of attitudes, behaviours and values that define “the way we do things here”. The ‘vibe’ or ‘feeling’ that a church exudes and embodies can show itself in the way the members interact, treat outsiders and handle areas like leadership, communication, and conflict resolution. Churches and other ‘like’ organisations can have either an unhealthy, (sometimes referred to as ‘toxic’), or a healthy culture and while most people seem to be able to identify it, they find it difficult to know how to change or impact the culture. 

Churches ignore culture to their peril as it can certainly be one of the key drivers of health and growth in the congregation. It is also true that an unhealthy or toxic culture can impact a church’s growth and effectiveness by allowing the behaviours and attitudes that promote that culture to go unchecked. This can often be seen in the way staff and leadership teams interact as they navigate the challenges and difficult waters of ministry to ‘broken’ people, as ‘broken’ people themselves. This is often why we have to address the culture of a church or staff team when we are working with a church on the revitalisation journey.

In the Building Your Church Culture workshop, we take the church leadership team through a process of assessing their current culture and then understanding how to intentionally build and enhance a healthy church culture. Using the premise that “culture is influenced and measured by values”, we take the team through a process to help them  identify both the toxic AND the healthy indicators of their culture and the values that drive them. This is accomplished through a series of interactive exercises using the team’s experience of dealing with difficult ‘toxic’ people in ministry (without using names) who impact culture negatively, as well as their experience of working with the kind of people who help to embody and drive the healthy culture they want to encourage.

The process of identifying toxic characteristics and attitudes can be helpful in pointing out those behaviours to correct or avoid in the teams and the congregation as a whole. It is then good to move on to identifying the positive characteristics of the people who encourage the healthy culture which is desired. We then take the time to compile and state those characteristics as values that underlie the behaviours. For example, if we recognise these behaviours - smiling workers, an eagerness to volunteer, reliability, and displaying a servant attitude - we might recognise that these behaviours point to and underline the value of “Serving with Joy”, which is a great value that could drive part of a healthy church culture.

Once we have a list of 4-6 values we help the team work on stating them in concise, memorable and easily communicated language. These will be rolled out to the whole congregation eventually, but we encourage the team to start with all the volunteers who serve in the church. We finish the workshop time with some discussion on how the staff and leadership team can embody and model the values to the whole church.

It is important to note that this process is not a ‘one and done’ exercise, but that it should be something that is revisited regularly to ensure that we are paying attention to the culture as the ministry moves forward. As our definition from the framework says about Culture and Values they “shape every part of church life and ministry”.

Implementation: Ministry To Children And Youth

written by Kristina Kettleton, Consultant - Children & Youth

For healthy churches of all sizes where all generations are growing in faith together.

When we think about how ministry to children, youth and young adults can or should look like, the most common picture is of a big, busy children’s church or a large, loud, fun youth ministry. These are the romanticised memories of the good old days, when whole communities went to church, or at least when parents would drop their children to Sunday School because they wanted their children to be taught and exhibit Christian values. For some of us, this was our experience of church when we were younger. For others of us, it is something we have never experienced, but have heard others reminisce, and long for our churches to be filled with young people just like they were. There can be deep grief and guilt associated with this as many feel as though we are failing parents, grandparents, and even our own children. 

This might even be your experience. If you feel like this, you are not alone. For most churches, a big, vibrant youth and children’s ministry is not their current experience, or even in their future reach.

The truth is that the goal should not be size, but instead health. In churches with a healthy ministry to children, youth and young adults, success is not measured by numbers or programs, but instead by a culture that values young people and chooses to minister to them in a variety of contexts. Contexts that extend beyond a Friday night youth group, or Sunday morning Kids Club, or even a Sunday night youth and young adults service.

In some ways, hearing this feels liberating for churches - to hear that young people can be discipled in ways that are achievable for smaller, older congregations can be freeing and empowering.

At City to City, when we engage with churches looking to strengthen their children’s and youth ministries, we take a whole church approach. We advocate for five foundational convictions that churches wanting a healthy ministry to young people need. We recognise that there is no ‘correct’ model, but when a foundation is build on discipleship, family, leadership, reaching out and when young people are seen to be contributing members of the body of Christ, there is a strong foundation. We work with the resources available to a church - what they already have, then look forward to imagine what could be.

This is a strengthening that does not provide programs as solutions, but instead engages with the unique context of each church to see how they can best minister to the young people in their context, while also reaching out to the young people and their families in the community. For some of them this ministry will be through an age-specific program, but it will not be the only focus. 

When we focus on health not numbers it means that a new or improved ministry to children or youth or young adults can start immediately, there doesn’t need to be a ‘critical mass’ of young people, or a large number of volunteers. It can start with equipping and supporting Christian parents to disciple their own children. It can start with one adult who wants to see young people discipled investing in one young person in a safe, intergenerational mentoring relationship. It can start with a serving team inviting a young person to serve alongside them as they use their gifts in music or hospitality, or it can start with one young Christian being empowered to invite their friend to church.

To be effective in this ministry churches need volunteers, not necessarily youth group leaders, but adults who are willing to invest in the discipleship of the younger members of their church. Investment in leaders always begins with safety (screening and training according to government and denomination guidelines and regulations), but continues with ongoing training, support and development.

A culture that values children, youth and young adults isn’t just good for the younger people in our church, in fact,  when we invest in the younger members of our church and our community, the whole church benefits - “stronger ministry to young people bulks up the ministry muscles of the entire congregation, and vice versa”.  

When we build on a strong foundation, there is no one correct way to minister to children or youth or young adults. When we think creatively and contextually there are endless opportunities.

Small Groups Are Not So Small

written by Pete Greenwood, Lead Consultant

As a pastor and church planter, I know that in most cases the lion’s share of church resources goes into running a vibrant Sunday worship service. This is right and good. The shared experience of submitting to God’s word, joining in the songs of the saints, praying for the growth of God’s Kingdom, and sharing in the Lord’s Supper is central to the life and health of any church.

At the same time, this very natural focus can mean that other ministries are sometimes unintentionally de-emphasised. They can be viewed as “added extras”—valuable, but not essential. This is often the case when it comes to small groups.

Small groups have a long and rich history. Since the days of John Wesley’s Methodist “classes” and “bands,” they’ve played a vital role in the life of the church. Even in smaller congregations, there is an instinctive awareness that people need relationships at a level of depth that a few hours on Sunday can’t provide. Often, these groups centre on Bible study, helping people reflect more deeply on Scripture and apply it to the realities of everyday life.

Most pastors and elders would readily affirm the importance of small groups. But in the busyness of ministry, it’s easy for their full significance to drift out of focus. Research consistently shows that higher levels of participation in church life are positively associated with stronger wellbeing, deeper belonging, and healthier church communities overall (1). In my consulting sessions, I sometimes invite leaders to reflect on the New Testament “one anothers”—honour one another, serve one another, encourage one another, show hospitality, love one another. Then we ask a simple question: to what extent can these be meaningfully practiced in a Sunday service?

The answer is: to some extent—but not fully. Sunday gatherings are essential for shaping us in the gospel, but they are not designed to carry the full weight of shared life together.

There’s another layer here. At City to City, we believe churches flourish not just when their programs are strong, but when their systems are healthy. Healthy systems ensure that every ministry is connected to a clear and compelling vision. We often describe this through three movements: “Drawing in” (community and integration), “Reaching out” (evangelism and mission), and “Growing up” (spiritual maturity).

Many church ministries contribute meaningfully to one or two of these areas. But small groups are uniquely positioned to engage all three.

They can be directed upward—cultivating devotion to God and deeper discipleship to Jesus. They can be directed inward—building relationships marked by love, care, and service. And they can also be directed outward—creating natural, accessible spaces for mission, whether through shared hospitality or intentional engagement with the local community.

That outward dimension is often the least developed, but it doesn’t need to be complex. In many cases, it can begin with something as simple as a regular, welcoming gathering where friends and neighbours are invited in.

If this is true, then small groups are not just optional additions to church life. They are a vital environment for discipleship, operating in all three ministry systems. Healthy churches are not built on Sunday gatherings alone, but on communities where the gospel is lived out together.

In fact, “small groups” is probably not the best term (and so many other names are used). They may be small in size, but they are significant in purpose. More than that, they are communities through which God is at work in powerful and personal ways.

As part of our Revitalisation program, we work with churches to strengthen and renew their small group ministries. We help connect groups to the wider vision of the church, deepen the quality of their gatherings, and develop clear pathways for leadership and multiplication. In many cases, churches also begin to see a steady increase in participation as groups become more clearly integrated into the life of the church.


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 (1 ) See, for example, research on church participation and wellbeing in Journal of Religion, Media and Digital Culture (2019), and findings from the National Church Life Survey highlighting the link between belonging, involvement, and church vitality: Belonging & Involvement (NCLS Research); Strengths of Faith Communities (NCLS Research).


Christmas with Non-Christian Family

Christmas can stir up all the feelings — joy, gratitude, nerves, tension, hope, exhaustion, and everything in between. So wherever you find yourself this year, I’m praying for you.

If your whole family loves Jesus, celebrate with joy! What an incredible gift to gather around the wonder of Christ stepping into our world. Thank you, thank you, thank you Jesus.

But for many of us, Christmas with unbelieving family can feel isolating, complicated or even painful. Maybe someone is openly hostile. Maybe they think your faith is a bit “cute”. Maybe they’re polite… but distant. Whatever your version looks like, you’re not alone. So many Christians walk into Christmas carrying a quiet ache alongside the celebration.

And yet — we’re called to love our families well. To enter the day prayerfully, wisely, tenderly, and with a good sense of humour where possible!

Our Own Posture

Prayerful – Yes, it sounds obvious, but don’t underestimate it. Keep praying for your family. We rarely know what God is stirring beneath the surface.

Humble – We’re only saved because of Jesus’ humility on the cross. That truth softens our hearts and keeps us from being self-righteous or defensive at the Christmas table.

Family – Whether or not you feel fully part of your earthly family, you are already embraced in God’s family. Let that settle your heart.

Preparation

Invitations – Some relatives may be open to coming to a Christmas service. Some won’t — and that’s okay.

Know your triggers – Christmas can poke old reactions. Think ahead about what tends to set you off, so you can choose peace over point-scoring. My kids and I once rehearsed what they might say to a particular uncle… and we won him over! Turns out his tough exterior hid a surprisingly soft centre.

Be ready for depth – Consider gentle “bridge” comments or simple ways to share where you’ve seen God at work in your life recently.

Gather support – Ask a few trusted friends to pray for you and your family leading up to the day.

During the Day

Relational wisdom – Read the room. Some relatives will feel warm and easy; others… not so much. Love them all intentionally. Each one is deeply known and loved by God.

Serve, listen, enjoy – Be present. Notice, laugh, help, join in.

Pay attention to the family “culture” – How do they speak, ask questions, show care? Can you gently meet them in that space?

Pray quietly throughout the day – Ask God for opportunities, but don’t force anything. Let Him open the doors.

Afterwards

Keep building relationships – Openness grows slowly over time. I once travelled overseas with a sister-in-law and nephew — it deepened our relationship beautifully, and genuine respect followed.

Reflect for next time – What might you adjust next year? Who holds influence in the family dynamic? What small changes could help?

There’s so much more that could be said, but here’s my prayer for you:
May you honour Jesus in your words and actions this Christmas — and remember that even when we stumble, He is bigger, kinder, and more at work than we realise. He works through us… and sometimes in spite of us. And that’s okay.

Keep praying. Keep loving. Jesus is with you.


Written by Julie-anne Laird
Director of Missional Engagement